You cannot, it is true, take an arrow and shoot at your wife’s father and mother, but you would make war on other people in her section. Your parents-in-law, too, would not mind killing you; your dema relationship is not a close friendly thing; you do not tell your secrets to them or trust them, whereas your pugera (paternal aunt) and aseba (maternal uncle) are close to you.3

3Rattray, R.S.n/an/an/an/a, , 1: 276 (Clarendon Press. By permission).